It was my first prom...and to be honest I didn't really know what i was doing. I had moved in only five months before, and got asked by one of the most popular guys at school. I do a lot of modeling and stuff, and he liked to hit on me a lot, so I didn't know what was going on. I thought he really liked me. All my new friends were totally jelous and said that they would have "given anything to be in my shoes".

I decided to wear this strapless yellow dress (he told me it was his favorite color) and did my hair up like he asked me to. I see now that he wanted me to "look perfect".

I guess I was just totally naive, and I wanted so much to be liked by all these new people...so I went along and did exactly what everyone told me to do. I didn't want to slip up and be a bad date for the most popular guy at school...then no one would ever ask me out again.

From dinner to the dance it was obvious what that kid wanted from me. He told me I looked beautiful and held my hand...then my waist...my uppper leg...he kissed my neck as we danced and told me how much he wanted me and how much he wanted us to be together. I was so stupid...so naive. I believed him.

After the dance our group took off to a hotel...our rooms were all together, but each couple had got their own room. One by one the couples took off to their own places, and pretty soon my date and I found ourselves alone in our room.

I had never gone all the way before. I didn't even want to...but he was all over me...got me on the bed and kept saying how much I meant to him...how much he loved me and wanted to share "something special" with me. I protested and asked him to not to push it, but he wouldn't stop. He knew all of the tricks. He knew just what to say. It wasn't long before I was tired of struggling and gave in. What else was I to do? I kept thinking: He's the most popular guy at school...if I don't, everyone will hear about it and hate me. He'll turn everyone against me. Besides, he says he loves me. Why not?

I let him do what he wanted with me. He got his prom night kicks and ended his high school years with a "bang" in a sense...with a pretty little model who didn't know better.

Yeah, well, after prom, he never spoke to me again. I found out that he had been challenged that he couldn't get me to do it with him. I felt so betrayed. I should have known better. I felt like it was all my fault. I know now that it wasn't all my fault and I'm on the road to recovery. Dating is hard...it's hard to trust guys again. It's hard to believe that there are any decent one's out there.

My plea: Girls, know your date before you go to prom. I pictured my first time so much better than that. Don't give it away to just anyone. prom can be either a dream or a nightmare. Guys, treat your date with respect. If she says no, SHE MEANS NO. Don't ruin that special night for her by making her feel obligated. Let her know it's HER night, that you're there for her and not to get what you want.

Don't pity me, I've learned my lesson, and now I can help others not to make the same mistake I did. It's hard, but I'm only 17, and have a lot of life to live. Thanks for reading my story.

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i am going to my prom of may 2002 and ur story made me relize that i should not fall into tempation. Thank u for ur story and stay enouraged because u r still beatiful no matter what. -- Rom

Not to pity you, but that's so horrible. I mean, couldn't you really have said no and like, fought him off? -- Faith

never trust a guy unless you really know them i had the same thing happen to me when i went to prom i went the prom when i was sophomore i went with a senior a guy who had like me since i was in 7th grade he thought he could say or do anything that would make me like him and be or sleep with him but i am sorry i didn't but i have slept with people i regret and i will never forget it my prom is this April and i am going with the guy i know and trust and the one i love. Always remember to get to know the guy there are jerks in this world who don't care about nobody but theirself -- Jill

hey gurl i read ur story and it was deep i feel u. but u shouldn't worry about what other people say or will think of u. u r u and nobody else if u do what you do and not what others tell you to do they know not to tell you what to do or other wise they'll know that they can boss you around and can get you into trouble. stay courageous and encouraging and stay u. PEACE OUT GURL, --Saundra

I really can relate to your story b/c right before my junior me and my boyfriend broke up and I tried to get revenge by going with a popular boy in school. I thought everything was fine because I have known him practically my whole life. It's a shame you think you know someone your whole life and really not know them. -- Secret

well girl u dont Healy think it is all you fault after all guys are punks they take advantage of us girls and it works because they sweet talk to us all the time. But we have to take charge and say no when its "No " after all what was the worst it could happen. He was just going to be mad and say lets leave, but if it was for a good cause hey why not. I am only a sophmor i went to the prom last year with the guy i had a crush on and he respect me from the first second we go to the prom. But it all depends in what kind of guy your with some guys get everything they want and others are respectful. Dont fell bad every one makes mistakes your not the only one out there. -- Dalia

hey i was just loooking at proms dresses and i came across ur story and it cought my eye, im sooo sorry ot hear that..this is my first prom,and now that i read this it really made me think, and i already have a date and he WAS going ot hte notel after,but after waht happened to u, i think i'll just stick to my house!! thanx for sharing ur story! i hope u feel much better.... o and just keep looking eventually ul find the rihgt guy -- Lindsey

I am a freshman and I got invited to the prom this year by a senior who I am really close to. At first I wasn't sure about what to do if something that way happens and now, after reading your story, I think I know to make the right choice. Thank you for sharing your story. -- Laura

i think that this is a really good story for people to read. I know that this happened to you and it is horrible, but i think that by sharing it, it can help many girls realise that they don't NEED to do this, and that they CAN say NO! Thanks for sharing. -- Alison Joy

I'm so sorry that you had to experiance that, and even if it's not pity your looking for I just want you to know I feel bad for you and the stuff you went through. My eyes actually got watery reading that story how horrible to be so young and exposed when it wasn't even what you wanted. Please be careful and still know that there are some guys out there that will still treat you like a princess, how all of us should be treated~ -- Sam

Hey, thanks so much for writing this story on here, cause I've always been worrying what I'm going to do on prom night, if my date asks me to have sex with him. Now I know that it would probably not be the best thing to do. So thanks for helping me -- Kristin

Thanks so much for putting that story in here! You have really made me think about who I am going to prom with and I am sure that its made lots of other girls think too! -- ~Laura

Hey! Great story, stuff like that happens to girls all the tiem and it's sad that it had to happen to you. But it sounds liek you were lucky to, you didn't get pregnant, or sick. My boyfriend is the best guy in the world, and we've talked about sex, we decided, that we'll wait, and if, in a few years we still love each other and get married, then maybe we'll go there, but not until then. To bad his parents want us to break up because his cousin did something stupid. Its a load of bull. You just keep on being the goddess you are, and if you ever find the right guy, then I wish you luck and happiness, but remember, you don't need a guy to be happy, and sometimes, most tiems even, you're better off without. -- Lily

Your are so brave, seriously if i were in your shoes i'm not sure i would be able to be as strong. I have been in a position before where a guy took advantage of me but didn't make it all the way b/ my sister came in and helped and i thank god she did. Most guys are scum but u'll find someone that loves you so keep the faith and love in your heart that person is out there waiting for ur love -- Ashley

hey i am totally thankfull that i read this story because you helped me relize that you can get sucked into things so easily , and i am glad that i read this because it was kinda like a wake up call to me because i am going to prom and i don't want to get sucked into something i don't want to you. i give you a lot of respect for telling your story and trying to help other ppl thank you -- Dawn

The girls in these stories are so stupid! Why cant you just say no! I have, you say no and walk away. -- Laura

Hey I just read ur story and I feel too sorry for you. But the important thing is that you have learned your lesson regarding this matter and so if you'll come across it again you'll know what to do. -- May

omg what a total loser he needs to get a life, if hes soooo popular y does he need to do that SAD!! Sorry it happened to u i know that il b carfull in my prom -- Lollie

I want to thank you for sharing your experience. A close guy friend of mine has been pressuring me lately to have sex with him for my first time ever. The winter formal dance is coming up, and now when the time does come, I know that I'll be strong enough to say no. Thank you -- Nikki, Mission Viejo, CA

wuts the big deal - so u had sex on ur prom who cares - just about every1 does - and bsides if hes that hot and popular its not like its gonna ruin ur rep - but wut i hate is how a guy could have sex with every girl he sees and b called a guy and then if a grl hassex wiht like 3 guyus shes called a slut -- Unknown

Hey! i just read ur story...i am so sorry to hear that, i just moved to a new place too..ive lived here 6 months. im going to my first prom this year and im a freshmen, ive only been with my boyfriend 2 months but i really love him..i have set down rules with him too and i really trust him! sorry ur prom night sucked! one day ull find the right guy! -- Stacia

While I don't pity you, you do have my sympathy. No man should EVER force himself on his date the way this guy did. He used your innocence and naivety to his advantage. I can't help being suprised at your naivety however. You mentioned you were a model. I know a little about modeling and I'm suprised you weren't aware of guys like him from the start. They're all over the modeling areas. No offense, little girl, but I think you need to learn from this experience. You should have been aware of guys like that from the begining. Most models are. -- Eternity, New Bern NC

Ok... sooo i kinda was feeling bad for you until you said "He got his prom night kicks and ended his high school years with a "bang" in a sense...with a pretty little model who didn't know better." Ok...thats dumb who the hellllll in their right mind would sit here and call themselves "pretty little model" ok you need a life. you need to STOP being soo damn conceited and obsessed with your self image. mo fo. yea dats right, hoochieeee. you know you liked it. dont make me feel baaaaaaaad for you. your the one who spread your legs and led him on and made him stick his sausage in your bun. you know...beef in your taco, chips in your dip....uhhh yea sooo thats all thanks bye. -- Non-conceited chicagoans, Chicago IL

Girls!! Im a thirty year old male. Ive seen my share of jerks. Hers what I have to say..." If a guy really loves you, or even likes you for that matter, he will respect your decisions regarding your bodies. Any loser who argues with you or tries to change your mind about YOUR decision, needs to be kicked to the curb !!! thats right!!...Ive seen too many girls get hurt/pregnant/infected because of some cute little charmer boy a%#hole. Respect yourselves!!! Stand strong!!booyah! -- Kevin

Wow. I started out feeling sympathy for you, but that sympathy quickly turned to admiration as i finished your story. I see that you've come out as a better person from your experience and I can truely say that you've inspired me. I hope that other girls learn from your experience and don't commit the same mistake, I know i sure did. -- Eve. Tonasket WA

I don't care what you say, if you want out of it bad enough, you would be able to fight him off. Or call for help. Or something. -- Tiffany

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